Coaching

What is Coaching?

A relationship-based coaching approach looks deeper into the things that keep us stuck. Those negative events, painful emotions, unhealthy relationships, and poor coping mechanisms affect our ability to move forward. Coaching can give us the courage to step out of that “stuck” place to live life fully. Each woman’s journey is not immune to difficulties and hurts, so we must learn to not just face them but grow through them as well. Avoiding life’s difficulties or ignoring its pain simply creates more problems that we must work through later. In every difficulty we face, we can meet it, work through it, and use it to build a life that thrives, not just survives. Instead of going through life burdened with a backpack full of rocks, we can enjoy a buoyant life of acceptance and personal growth. However, we must choose to embrace the resilient people we can be in order to experience true freedom and restoration.

Coaching is a one-to-one relationship that supports growth in self-awareness, identifies personal strengths, and stretches you to pursue your healing journey with intentionality.

Coaching is encouraging, hope-filled, motivational and action-driven. It is about calling forth the intellect, brilliance, and creativity in you.

Coaching does...

  • Honor you and your story.
  • Provide clarity and insight into a world that often doesn’t make sense.
  • Listen and provide space for wounds to be heard and healed.
  • Validate experiences that have created barriers.
  • Encourage acceptance of where you are.
  • Give space to share feelings and thoughts.
  • Focus on support toward things you can change.
  • Motivate with a sense of self-care and empowerment.
  • Take steps, with the help of a specialized coach, toward sustainable action.
  • Provide additional readings and homework to further your progress.

Coaching does not...

  • Assess or diagnose mental health or addiction.
  • Find the answers for you.
  • Provide a quick, 3-step guide to healing.
  • Create an immediate fix to your marriage or relationship.
  • Design a formula to fix someone else.
  • Use the process to stay stuck.

A Coaching Word Picture

An easy way to view coaching is through a medical word picture. You experience a major car accident (discovery or relapse day). You are rushed into surgery.  They need to get the bleeding to stop (initial support could look like a pastor, mentor, group, therapist). Days later (in our case sometimes weeks or months), you are still in the hospital. Your body is beginning to heal from the traumatic day (scabs appearing), and they decide to do another surgery to “fix” some other issues (therapist). Following surgery your body is beginning to heal well, but the muscles are still weak. You are referred to Physical Therapy (coaching). You are given an individual who assesses the injury, understands the workings of a healthy body, and helps you construct a plan of recovery. You both work to come up with exercises that will improve and strengthen your body and heart, which leads to deeper healing. 

What can you expect?

We will work together to help you assess where you are now and where you would like to be. Together, we will work to bridge that gap. We will pray together – probably cry together – and run hard after Jesus together.

We believe accountability is just as important for you as it is for the addict. Coaching is a wonderful place to find accountability and keep moving toward healing as you learn new tools to navigate your journey.

Coaching is not the first step in a woman’s healing journey, but rather a step that is followed by group participation or therapy. To know if coaching is the next right step for you, please reach out via our contact form.

To book a session or for questions regarding coaching, please email support@hoperedefined.org.

Still Not Sure?

Here are a few questions to consider for coaching.

  • Are you struggling to identify the places you are feeling stuck in your recovery?
  • Have you attempted to create boundaries but struggle to hold to them?
  • Are you needing space to brainstorm or think through future needs, decisions, events?
  • Do you need support to design and navigate support plans like therapeutic separation, rebuilding trust, or relapse/slip plans?
  • Are you having a hard time seeing God in the middle of the mess? Do you need support shifting your eyes?

Meet Our Coaches

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Lyschel Burket, PCC, FRLC, APSAT- CPC, ADOH, has been working with women since 2008 as they take steps toward healing and their pursuit of God. She has facilitated support groups specific to partners…Read More →
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Sharon Jackson is an APSATS trained Professional Life Coach. Sharon has a heart to support and walk with women impacted by infidelity and betrayal trauma. She has led betrayal partner groups since 20…Read More →
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Shawna Meek, CPC, PCC, APSATS-CPC, truly understands the roots of attachment distress in a marriage, even after addiction sobriety. Her personal story began in 2000, and after many years of mentoring…Read More →
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Alison Ruhter, Certified Professional Coach, APSATS-Candidate, passionate about serving others and supporting woman in their healing journey after the devastation of sexual betrayal. A partner hersel…Read More →
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Sherri Tanner, Certified Professional Coach, Group Mastery Coach, APSATS trained, passionate to help women find hope and healing, as she has also walked through betrayal trauma. She understands that …Read More →
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